Words
Hi everyone! How is it going? Well, if you care to ask, it's been quite a rollercoaster ride for me. 'Why?' is something that somehow I wish someone will ask me when I said so, not because I want their attention or something, but it's nice to feel that there is people who still care about your well being, and as always, and you all can see, the fact that I'm posting (again) after quite some time..... or probably after a very long time... means there is something I that I've learnt and would love to share with all of you.
Some of you might be thinking "What did she do this time?". HA.HA.HA. Well, basically what I did is..... not watching what came out from my mouth. To the point where I might have unintentionally hurt someone's feeling. How do I know? The person actually point out what did I say that is over the line. It's not easy to being "awaken" in such a way, but if it is the way for you to be a better person, so be it. I honestly very thankful that he make me reflect back to what have I done in the past. What have I said that might hurt other's feelings? How did I voice my opinion? and What could have been done in a better way?
If you know me personally, you might know how I always tease people. Some of the 'jokes' that I made might cross the line without me realising it. I am used to call/tease others up to the point where it's something normal for me, where if we see from other's perspective it might have cross the line. up to the point where all the mean word becoming a usual vocabulary for us.
I used to think a word is just a word, and they mean what they mean. Until I met something called "Sarcasm". In my 'circle' when you are close enough with a person, a word doesn't always mean what they mean. Getting used to the use of sarcasms sentences somehow make me dull and not sensitives towards the meaning of the word that I'm saying. It is true that we take it as a joke, yet it's not a right excuse to keep on saying mean words with the assumption that others will understand us.
As I mention in one of the articles, life has ups and downs, when we are having that downs moments anything funny won't be funny anymore, and everything seems out of the places, try to imagine if everyone think mean words are tolerable and they start throwing mean words to you, even though you know that they don't mean it, yet, it will still leave a scar, won't it?
Another point that I've learnt it's not everything are worth saying. Some stuff are better be left unsaid rather than being said and hurt others. If someone reading this and said this point isn't valid, I can agree to some extent. It's a controversial point tbh, sometimes stuff that might hurt you are the drivers for you to be a better person. Yet if you're having a bad day and you're not in the right mind to receive any critics, even if the purpose it's good, you won't look at it as a good thing. So I guess it's all about how it's being delivered.
Letting others to know what they did wrong won't be as easy as it sounds like, and it won't be as good as the intention sounds like, it rarely goes the way we want it to. All these possibilities are uncontrollable by us. We can't make it easy by just saying whatever is needed without considering their feelings. It doesn't matter how good the intention sounds like, criticism will least likely to have a good response. Their responses on how that take the criticism is also out of our league to control. All we can control is the way we put the words together and the way we are explaining it.
Word is not a game. It has the power to make nor destroy someone else's day. Most of the time we said what we want to say not what we need to say. I don't think it's fair to escape all the blame of the words that we've said by saying 'Oh, I didn't mean it.' 'I was being sarcastic' or 'It was just a prank'. Just because it seems nothing for you doesn't mean it won't be a big deal for others, and we won't be able to take back what we said. Once it's out, it's out, it can only be forgotten or forgiven. I guess we can see now why the proverbs said "Think before you speak."
Well, I hope that's enough for us t learn from, now I'm gonna sleep because my head is so heavyy!! Anyway, I'll see you all later! Stay awesome people :) Mkbye.
PSSSS:
I'm so tired when I was typing this. So.. yeah.. don't mind any grammatical error ya! Ill fix them when i have my break :3
Some of you might be thinking "What did she do this time?". HA.HA.HA. Well, basically what I did is..... not watching what came out from my mouth. To the point where I might have unintentionally hurt someone's feeling. How do I know? The person actually point out what did I say that is over the line. It's not easy to being "awaken" in such a way, but if it is the way for you to be a better person, so be it. I honestly very thankful that he make me reflect back to what have I done in the past. What have I said that might hurt other's feelings? How did I voice my opinion? and What could have been done in a better way?
If you know me personally, you might know how I always tease people. Some of the 'jokes' that I made might cross the line without me realising it. I am used to call/tease others up to the point where it's something normal for me, where if we see from other's perspective it might have cross the line. up to the point where all the mean word becoming a usual vocabulary for us.
I used to think a word is just a word, and they mean what they mean. Until I met something called "Sarcasm". In my 'circle' when you are close enough with a person, a word doesn't always mean what they mean. Getting used to the use of sarcasms sentences somehow make me dull and not sensitives towards the meaning of the word that I'm saying. It is true that we take it as a joke, yet it's not a right excuse to keep on saying mean words with the assumption that others will understand us.
As I mention in one of the articles, life has ups and downs, when we are having that downs moments anything funny won't be funny anymore, and everything seems out of the places, try to imagine if everyone think mean words are tolerable and they start throwing mean words to you, even though you know that they don't mean it, yet, it will still leave a scar, won't it?
Another point that I've learnt it's not everything are worth saying. Some stuff are better be left unsaid rather than being said and hurt others. If someone reading this and said this point isn't valid, I can agree to some extent. It's a controversial point tbh, sometimes stuff that might hurt you are the drivers for you to be a better person. Yet if you're having a bad day and you're not in the right mind to receive any critics, even if the purpose it's good, you won't look at it as a good thing. So I guess it's all about how it's being delivered.
Letting others to know what they did wrong won't be as easy as it sounds like, and it won't be as good as the intention sounds like, it rarely goes the way we want it to. All these possibilities are uncontrollable by us. We can't make it easy by just saying whatever is needed without considering their feelings. It doesn't matter how good the intention sounds like, criticism will least likely to have a good response. Their responses on how that take the criticism is also out of our league to control. All we can control is the way we put the words together and the way we are explaining it.
Word is not a game. It has the power to make nor destroy someone else's day. Most of the time we said what we want to say not what we need to say. I don't think it's fair to escape all the blame of the words that we've said by saying 'Oh, I didn't mean it.' 'I was being sarcastic' or 'It was just a prank'. Just because it seems nothing for you doesn't mean it won't be a big deal for others, and we won't be able to take back what we said. Once it's out, it's out, it can only be forgotten or forgiven. I guess we can see now why the proverbs said "Think before you speak."
Well, I hope that's enough for us t learn from, now I'm gonna sleep because my head is so heavyy!! Anyway, I'll see you all later! Stay awesome people :) Mkbye.
PSSSS:
I'm so tired when I was typing this. So.. yeah.. don't mind any grammatical error ya! Ill fix them when i have my break :3
found you on 'that app' and accidentally read all your post :( still don't understand girls lol
ReplyDeleteHAHA! Thank for reading all the posts :) Hope you find it useful, if not at least it's entertaining, right? Haha
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